Being hospitable is something everyone can achieve. Hospitality is the warm feeling you get when a person opens their home and hands to serve you. Follow along to learn how to practically have hospitality.
Being hospitable doesn’t come naturally to all, however, we are all called to minister to one another in this way to some degree. This may look different for women in different seasons of life. Hospitality could also just be as simple as sending a card or flowers to someone who is struggling. The main thing is that it’s an act of service to others.
I have such fond memories from a few women’s homes that have hospitality mastered. The love and genuine kindness that I felt coming from those people made me want to model that in my home.
We LOVE having people in our home to do life with. I know this is not the case for everyone reading this. But, I do encourage you to step out of your comfort zone and try to be more hospitable with your home.
This is a great opportunity in Christian ministry that is vital for strong, godly relationships. Several stories in The Bible include people, including Jesus, gathering in one another’s home. Food isn’t necessary but it’s often part of the equation when people gather together in a home.
Be Prepared To Be Hospitable
I’d argue that one of the most important ways to be hospitable is to be prepared. You may be asking “what exactly does that mean?” Being prepared looks like frozen cookie dough and keeping the living room or dining area somewhat “clean” throughout the day.
If you are a mother then you know that life with children can be unpredictable and messy. But, there is a time for allowing certain people into your home to see your life how it is. There is also something to be said for the opposite. Let me explain further.
In our home, there are certain parts of the house that we tidy throughout the day in 5 minute bursts with teamwork. Having a living space or gathering area designated for having company over is a key piece to hospitality. We have a built in bench with drawers in our living room that we use to stash the kids toys so they are easy to get in and out for last minute visitors.
I do recommend having an area like this in your home, that is ready for company at any given moment. There will be times that someone needs to talk or needs prayer unplanned. It is such a blessing if I can be ready for that person whenever the struggles of life occur.
Sure, there is a time for calling someone up on the phone to talk but, I believe nothing beats a face to face fellowship and prayer. There is a connection that happens that can’t be felt over the phone.
Be Available To Invest In Relationships
Fostering genuine relationships takes work. I’d be lying if I said that fostering meaningful and deep relationships was effortless.
Being available to fellowship with someone and having a space to do it go hand in hand. Plus, you have to have relationships that are rooted in order for people to feel comfortable reaching out to you. If there is no relationship they also wouldn’t have a desire to come into your home to experience your hospitality. I believe some women just carry an openness in their character with the way they talk and smile to others that makes me want to deepen a relationship with them.
Being a part of a side by side mentor group or Bible study would be a great way to make these relationships.
I know as good as anyone how busy life can get. The truth is that we all experience busy seasons in life. We cannot let time pass us by, however. There will be other opportunities but you never know why God placed someone in your life at a certain time. So, be available to welcome that opportunity and get connected. Make time for those around you even if it may be inconvenient for your schedule, to a certain degree. People will realize the effort you are putting in when you do this and value the relationship even more.
For example, mid-mornings on a couple of week days are best for me to have people over to my home at this time of life. Because I have small children, I do not have the luxury of having people over anytime necessarily. Knowing that there are times available at a few different points throughout the week makes me more of a reliable friend that is available to others. I can offer certain days or times when making a plan to have someone come over to my home.
Have Refreshments Ready
A wise friend of mine, who happens to be my age, taught this idea to me a few years back. She models hospitality so well in her home. I have felt encouraged by her simply by just being in her home and experiencing the mood and service.
One thing she recommends is always having some cookie dough in the freezer to be able to thrown in the oven for unexpected guests.
This of course isn’t necessary. But, I can tell you from experience that I have been shocked that I showed up at a friends house last minute and they have a treat for me to enjoy. It kind of shocked me that something as small as this could mean so much.
There are of course many other ideas for this such as having tea or coffee at ease of access for this occasion. Get creative and next time you make a special treat, double it and freeze for later for when you have a guest over.
Becoming selfless in terms of hospitality can look a little different for every situation. I know there are times I really don’t want to have a guest over due to my own selfish reasons. Whether I am feeling lazy or unavailable emotionally I can miss out on an opportunity to be hospitable with my home if I am not careful.
If you are having a friend over to be an ear to hear for a tough situation, try praying right before the person shows up. A lot of times I find that I become more available to listen, or speak wisdom, if I remember to ask God for help first.
Make Your Home Cozy
Something I have loved is when I step into someone else’s home and instantly feel at home. This will probably look different at different times of the year, but screams hospitality none-the-less.
If it is Winter time, maybe there are cozy blankets available to use and candles lit. Our new “old” home has a cozy wood fireplace that I love to have going and it makes the house SO cozy.
Spring time and Summer are my favorite. Maybe you open the curtains to let light in and the windows for fresh air. The sun brightens my day, I hope to brighten someone elses with my home.
Try using a diffuser with CPTG Essential Oils. Essential Oils are powerful and can affect our mood. One of my favorite Spring and Summer time blends is Juniper Berry, Grapefruit, and Wild Orange. It is such a breath of fresh air that makes me smile, it could do the same for your guest.
There are several great examples in The Bible of how we can be hospitable. I encourage you to read up on those foundational truths so that you can model them in a modern way.
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