God gives us plenty of examples, in The Bible, of what a godly woman looks like. I have loved learning about the characteristics of the Proverbs 31 woman.
Let me preface this post by saying that Proverbs 31 is not THE only way to live like a godly woman. This is just one example that I take literally and have felt led to try to mirror the character of, personally.
What Scripture Says About The Woman Who Fears The Lord
“The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.” (Proverbs 31:11-12 ESV) or “Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good and not harm, all the days of her life.” (Proverbs 31:11-12 NLT)
This section of scripture is pretty straightforward. The way that I understand this passage is to say that the woman’s character is pure in the sense that she means well. I also gather that she will do what is needed to care for her husband.
Application of v. 11-12
A way that I am applying this to my life is, to not use harsh words during a disagreement. Words are like daggers to my husband and, in my selfishness, I have hurt him in this way. I need to be holding my husbands trust at the highest regard. If you can relate, I pray that you would ask God to cover your words before you say them.
The Work In The Home Of A Woman Who Fears The Lord
“She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. …; she brings her food from afar.” (Proverbs 31:13-14 ESV)
Verses 13 and 14 give specific examples of the way a woman works. In other words, there are trades that woman can learn to be fruitful.
Application of v. 13-14
Sewing was not something I learned to do growing up. A friend taught me as an adult. Though I am not spinning thread, I do think of sewing as the same principle that I can apply. Being able to make things for my home and clothing for my family is such a blessing. This is a skill that I believe every woman should learn to be able to clothe her family.
Gathering the best food sources to feed my family have been a way I try to live verse 14 out. Being willing to get food from afar, not just conveniently has been a way I can bless my family. If you have the opportunity, I pray that God would also give you the desire to feed your family with the best food you can afford, even if it’s more inconvenient.
Being A Good Steward Of What God Entrusts Us With
“She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.” (Proverbs 31:16 ESV) God has been so good to provide for us, even when we are selfish and try to create idols. I love that we have the opportunity to put our money back into something that will continue to yield fruit.
For example, I can afford to do a larger garden this year and am so grateful for this. It is something that I have prayed for and waited for over time. I am happy to spend our money on the garden because it is going to something that will continue to provide.
It’s easy to waste our money on things that won’t last. Often times, God has shown me that my selfishness was not wise. He has shown me this by giving me the thing I wanted, and then showing me why it wasn’t worth it. Every time, I wish I had listened better to His commands.
2 Ways To Practice These Characteristics
There is a lot more to glean from Proverbs 31, of course. Two of the ways discussed above were: 1) Be a woman your husband can trust in every aspect, and 2) Spend your time and money doing things that would glorify The Lord. I pray that you are encouraged to really study what this means and how it might look in your life, personally. It’s okay if the way you apply these scriptures looks different than mine. That’s what is so awesome about God’s word is that, He shows us each different lessons and blessings from it.
A book I’m hoping to read this year is called “Instruments in The Redeemer’s hands.” Many people have expressed receiving so much blessing from reading it. In addition to being more willing to serve, I want to learn how I can be a better servant in the body of Christ.
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